Getting into your first relationship and hoping it’s going to be the one that works and it’s the best is literally like, picking up the cello without having any idea how to play the cello and hoping you’re going to play.
What is failure expected? Because the idea of failure or the idea of doing something and it not working is very normal. You’re not good at everything all the time. That’s not real. So let’s think about it. Sports, that’s expected. You’re going to fail a lot at sports, practice until you master.
Arts music, all these things, right? We practice practice, language, academia. My point is you weren’t perfect at all of these things, unless you’re a prodigy. And if I’m correct with math, there, aren’t a lot of prodigies around, which is why they’re prodigies. So why is it that we haven’t been taught to fail when it comes to relationships?
Why is it when it comes to the relationship department? You’re just supposed to hit it out of the park. First time around without any information or guidance or anything. Does that make any sense, anybody, it didn’t make any sense to me.
The reality is there is a lot of trial and error that needs to happen in relationships and not enough conversations going around about it. You can really see success but number one, it’s not your fault.
You are a product of your environment. However, now that this lens is coming into focus for you, you’re going to start to see that your perceived problem of “Man, I just have crappy luck. UGH, why is there nobody good out there for me? Why she plays games with me? He just talks to me and all he does is text me.”
It doesn’t do anything. Maybe the core problem is that your expectations are off. If we looked at this differently, maybe you’d have a different experience.